What’s Happening? Life Is Flipping (Me & You) Over….Again!

What’s Happening? Life Is Flipping (Me & You) Over….Again! Discover yourself again.

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Use Life’s Stepping Stones To Find Your Talents and Goals





I love the creativity I have been blessed with. I began this blog today just thinking about my new and exciting venture of making Soaps_by_Rita-1(herbal) soaps. I’m loving it. I am still learning and seek to create soaps that are variant in coloration, shapes, and sizes. I am always excited when I do a new batch.




As I look back, there are several avenues I have traveled, and they all required me to use my creative talents. In turn, I have learned a lot and been blessed to meet some wonderful people along the way. Thus, I discovered that under the umbrella of creativity, I am content and in peace. Save YourselfWhat are the special gift(s) that you share with others? Sometimes, we underestimate ourselves. Get in the habit of having positive self talk. Using negativity can pull you down to your knees, and you may have problem trying to stand tall again. Every person has something to offer. However, if no one has ever noticed or complimented that person on what their personal gifts are, and the person has not noticed for him or herself, then they could be lost.  We ALL have gifts (more than one), and it’s permissible to complement oneself.  I don’t mean complimenting in the sense of checking yourself in the mirror on a daily basis, and saying “self….you are the bomb, the greatest and smartest”. However, keep in mind, no one is perfect or all that. What I suggest to you is speak to yourself just as you would like others to speak to you and about you.

Use Stepping Stones To Find Talents and Goals You have stepping stones (not necessarily real ones) walking over the stonesthat you use to find out about ‘who you are’ and how to attract others with similar or opposite gifts to you. Some, you may form a strong relationship with, while others may be a 1 or 2 time encounter. What did you discover about yourself while learning about this other person, and the reasons why certain people come into your space for a lifetime, while others for short durations (could be a minute). As I see it, and as we keep using our stepping stones of life, we learn more about ‘our world’ and that of others. Creativity is a part of our being.


Everyone has a creative gene, but some stay dormant, while others explode with never-ending ideas. Which are you? As you read, what is your mind relaying to you? Creation explodes each day. Do you notice? Do you use it? As I travel, I see things that could be other things. I see colors in a soothing, delightful way. My mind just picks up on these things as something magnificent. This is why I really like to talk and be around people. I first see others as ‘gifts’ to the world, because of the creative gene they hold. How would the world really be if people used their creative gifts for ‘good’ and not negative results? Wow…just think. Everyone has the opportunity to do that unless there are some medical things that may stop that process to some degree. ‘Just sayin’. images What’s your passion? What do you like to do, and what positive experience would you expect to have from challenging your creative self? Possibly, just find another great point about who you are, what you can contribute to this world to make it better, and what joy would come from that. For instance, are you a great talker (as I am)? I love to speak to people, and this topic would be a joy to talk about in front of others.


I love the idea of having others tap into their inner part, if that has never been done. Or, just expounding and growing that part of yourself. You know that you have to nurture you mind, heart and spirit everyday, just as we do to flowers, grass, etc. in order for them to grow. You must keep the mind stimulated with positive thoughts as opposed to negative. Clutter of the mindWhat great things would you and others find out about yourself that you didn’t know yesterday? That adage you’ve heard before…”A mind is a horrible thing to WASTE”. Don’t allow that to happen.

I have always liked writing, but never pursued it seriously. It has become a passion with me. My mind is always working on writing positive topics relating to home and life/lifestyle. It’s definitely something that stays in our day-day living. What I have found out and ratified is that I genuinely like people. Every single person, in my heart and mind, has a GIFT to offer  themselves and others.  Each of us, in my estimation, has our creative gift handed to us as we make our way into this world. It can be used for positive or negative. Ask yourself as your mind works with your creative self “What Positive Result” do I want to experience from using my creativity (in a particular way)? It could be a gift that someone else has, and you just approach the use.. differently. Own your gift! Don’t led it fade away from non-use. Oh, by the way, you may have more than one gift. Check it out! :)

I believe the story is there for discovery and sharing. Find out your own story of creativity. Why you think as you do, what makes you move to one area of creativity more than another? An engineer is creative, but his/her creativity surely runs in a different direction than mine. We would probably relate in the fact that it has to do with being human.  Everyone starts off with a creative gene, but some use it and others cannot or do not recognize it as part and parcel of their day-day function. You may be thinking your passion is someplace else, not in being creative. I, however, feel that all visions begin with the use of your creative gene. Creation is the beginning of the thought. You’re out to bring something into fruition or change something that already is. It’s still the basis of the thought, and the building up of that thought.  I believe that waking each morning and making that decision to focus on the day turns your creative gene into your work horse. It works all day long, even sometimes as you sleep (ideas and memories crop up while you sleep). typewriterEverything I begin to think about and write about raises that creativity level to higher heights, and my imagination just takes over. I have taken this creativity as an interior decorator and helped others work out a plan to focus on bringing out their own creativity. I worked as an Interior Decorator, helping others see their space as their creative board of colors, movement (furniture) and use of the space in ways they may not have thought of. We discussed color (which many fought), but this is a world of color, how can you not use it just a little? Right now, as I write on this page that is white background with black lettering, there are colors surrounding this page that I chose. I couldn’t write without inserting some color on the page. You understand what I mean? Can you relate to me? We have this gift to use at our will.  Everything about me surrounds itself in thinking outside of the box. This just allows me to keep growing; finding out more and more of ‘who… I really am’.

 I’ve done things in the creative world that brings joy to my heart. RLA Image Resources  was born out of becoming an image consultant (some time ago) with another company. I taught other women how to take care of their skin, and apply makeup and skincare in a way that will keep their skin healthy and with a healthy glow. The use of a little makeup on a clear skin is beautiful. How to highlight their face and eyes with the use of makeup almost undetectable, but seen. Discovery…I love the word, because it allows us to grow and define oneself from another place of learning. I particularly enjoyed these ‘new’ movements I call… Arrival. RLA Image Resources is the creative means for me to write about life and lifestyle issues. “I have arrived.”

Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting - OB Living SpaceI have also made the same point of Arrival assisting homeowners in defining their space. I did this as Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. This company, which I still use as a basis for anything to do with accenting ‘home, life and lifestyle’ is a basis for writing my blog. We tell stories about the how-to’s through our blogs. I have expanded and use RLA Image Resources as a sub company to Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting.  RLA Image Resources focuses on lifestyle and growth of personal self. This is where our soap creation had its beginning, although it still rides a little under Accentuate. Right now, we are working on the soaps that I do hope others may purchase at some point. Will keep you posted through our blogs and FB. FIRST IMPRESSION STARTS WITH HOW OTHERS WILL BUILD ‘YOUR’ STORY. It starts without a word spoken, and then builds from there. This is why we sometimes get weird vibes from someone, and we wonder what’s up with that person. Oh, by the way, you are also sizing up people without speaking a word. Have you ever looked at someone and began to think you know about that person. But, really you don’t. It just that first impression, verbal or non-verbal. Do you ever have an impression of yourself as you look into the mirror? Are there things you feel should change; or maybe think that people will build their own ideas of who you are from your verbal and non-verbal THINK AND FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF, and how that feeling carries over to others! Make it a great and lasting impression to carry around with you. It starts from the silent language being fed to you….by you and others you listen to (even in this blog) and ends with that. Many times, people only believe what someone else tells them about him or herself. What matters first and foremost is what YOU THINK about yourself and seek to constantly learn more and more about what makes you go. Until next time….. please tell us about topics you like or would like us to write about. Thank you and have a day filled with accomplishments (big and little), joy and your expectations.

Have an awesome day and use your talents and be brilliant when doing it.  Keep learning about yourself and then keep a notebook + so you may share your beginnings. If you have questions relating to this blog, you may reach me at: . kitchen chairsbedroom#2-1Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting - OB Euro Living for Easy Days   Use Your Stepping Stones to Find Your Talents and Goals. These are some of my creations of the use of colors (which  I love to work with).


Are You Judging Or Being Judged?

Believe In Yourself






JudgingThe Struggle

Many writers struggle for titles, which is what I have experienced today in preparation for writing this blog. I am struggling a little with ‘the meat’ of what I shall write in this post. I have many thoughts and ideas. Are You Judging Or Being Judged? 

As you pass in front of the mirror, you stop…. and take a moment to look at the person looking back at you. Sometimes it’s a long look and other times, it’s just a glance. If you take time to visit with the image in the mirror, you may discover some new things. What you see in the mirror of yourself is the same that others see. When you see yourself in a mirror, it does permit you to make any changes that you question. Most importantly, believe in yourself, first and foremost. There are very special gifts that make you special in your own right. Do you know there could be many people who have the same gift you possess, but you may use yours very different then someone else.

Believe In Yourself because there is no other like you. You were born with special gifts that permit you to do something a little different than someone else. Think seriously about all the things you love to do. Find your place in this world. You are a special person like no other. It’s important to not judge yourself or be judged in a negative way. You have way too much positive attributes to contribute to this Big World. Find Your Gifts and Use Them.


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Many Faces

How To Keep Revolving – People are not one dimensional, but of many dimensions. This is why we can (or attempt to) perform many things at one time. We sing and dance at the same time, or walk and talk and some people even talk while sleeping. They usually do not know anything about this, but there are deep conversations that may take place during this period of sleep. I do remember my Dad doing that, and he never remembered it. So, you see another dimension.

The more you become aware of these various points of interest about self, the better off you’ll be. You will be able to become more aware of things and conversations you’re having with others, as well as the body language that derives from these conversations. Body language is a whole new ball game when it comes to learning about yourself. You see, body language is a language all its own. It is truly silent, as it involves nonverbal communication. but the words spoken are through facial expressions, body posture, gestures, eye movement, and so much more. We may do another blog at some point to actually describe how silent language is often spoken between two people, and the message is clear to them, but may have different meanings.

In business, especially when you go on an interview, your body language is so important. You need to be very conscious of any silent messages you deliver in any type of an interview and with people you do not know well. You could imply certain things you do not mean to suggest just through silent language. People can misconstrue what the silent verbal language means to them as opposed to what you really are conveying. Be very conscious of what your silent words convey in any environment when you’re actually not speaking aloud. Silent words can be misinterpreted very easily.

Clutter of the mind






Give Plenty of Thought

Have you surprised yourself in the way a situation worked out and created a benefit for you? Yes, I would say without hesitation, because it happens everyday to someone. These moments allow us to have a common value for one another as human beings. What are your values, your gifts? Not being one dimensional is great, because we hopefully try various things that help us to grow and learn in a careful way. However, when we are living with ‘many faces’, we don’t take the time to figure out who we really are and where we’re headed.

Give Plenty of Thought and think about how much energy you place in another person, place or thing as you go about using your discovery tools. That is important to do; putting others ahead of yourself at times shows a deep caring, however, you should keep aware of who you are and your the purpose and intentions. The only way to get to that point is to know yourself. Listen to your thoughts, your body as to right and wrong, and don’t be afraid to follow what it tells you is the right way. Be strong in your value system. If your mind says something isn’t right or good for you, you may just want to question the situation before jumping into it. Your mind and body will not fail you, instead it informs you in strong fashion. Don’t create a issue for yourself, rather look for the positive resolution to any situation. And, don’t get tied up in if you are judging or being judged. The best thing you can do is….what is going to be right for you with no regrets.

Believe in yourself first and then you believe in others. It means that you will not wonder …. Are You Judging Or Being Judged?














Live to Eat OR Eat to Live? What is Your preference?

Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting kitchenFood, we cannot survive without it. What we eat can have a GIANT effect on our whole self. The way we feel, think and act as a lot to do with the food we intake, and how it works on our body, mind and spirit. Some foods (we may love to eat) will not always agree with us, be the best for us and can be the cause of many maladies we experience on a daily basis. All foods do not agree with our bodies due to the chemicals sprayed on food to (supposedly) keep it fresh.                                  


 Eating is mandatory. Do you agree? We Live to Eat and Eat to Live.





Is your tummy calling you to take in some good eating?


Meat Patties - PattiesPure-Ella_-Ella-Leche-Cucumber-Rolls-with-avocado-vegan-and-gluten-free-photo-recipe1 Asian Salmon-Brocolli-Cheese & Potatoes Au Gratin

1.  Beef Patties

2.  Cucumber Rolls

3. Salmon w/broccoli and potatoes au gratin




30 minutes – Lamb Dish

Lamb, Pasta and Feta Cheese

Pasta with Lamb and Feta Cheese – Found in Better Home & Gardens Cookbook… What’s For Dinner?

12 oz. bonesless lean leg of lamb or beef sirloin steak

1 tablespoon olive oil or cooking oil

1 lg. onion, cut into wedges

1 tsp bottled minced garlic or 2 cloves garlic, minced

1 – 6oz.can tomato paste

1/2 cup tomato juice

1/2 cup water

1/4 cup cider vinegar or red wine vinegar

1 teaspoon dried oregano, crushed

1/2 teaspoon ground cumin

1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1 med zucchini, halved lengthwise and sliced (1-1/4 cups)

Hot cooked orzo or other pasta

Crumbled feta cheese

Chopped walnuts or snipped fresh parsley (optional)

Trim any separable fat from meat. Thinly slice meat across the greain into bite-size pieces. Heat oil in a 10 in skillet; stir-fry meat for 2 to 3 minutes or till no pink remains. Remove meat from skillet. Add onion & garlic to skillet; stir-fry for 1 minute. Stir in tomato paste, tomato juice, water, vinegar, oregano, cumin, and cinnamon. Add zucchini; bring to boiling. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 5 minutes or till zucchini is tender. Return meat to skillet; heat through. Serve over over hot cooked orzo or other pasta; sprinkle with feta cheese and, if desired, walnuts or parsley. Makes 4 servings (30 Minutes Lamb from Better Homes and Gardens – WHAT’S FOR DINNER?)














The Complicated Us…has…Our Image Talking

complicated signsComplicated things can be pretty tricky to navigate and complicated people may be unexplainable and intriguing at the same time. This is true, believe it or not.

I haven’t written my blog in about a week. I really needed a break, and up to this time, I couldn’t get my thoughts going as I wanted them to be. Sometimes, I discovered I get writer’s block. I never knew what that was until I am prepared to write and nothing comes for me to put on the paper. At times, I would have a topic in mind,  ready to begin to build on it, and suddenly lose my thoughts and words. I am left with a question of what to write about. My blogs are about home and image (meshing both together) or separately. Often, there is a great blend and not much separation.


Forget name imagesThis communication is to grow relationships and conversations. Communication is vital to building relationships and understanding the message that is given out.  I continue on until the words and the ability to place them on paper starts to flow. I am then a happy person. My topics are written to provide a positive approach to  home and lifestyle issues. I really enjoy writing this blog, and I am interested in helping people discover their silent language and the messages they relay to others. The messages are based on how individuals communicate and interact with each other.

Example: You see the same person every day at work, or perhaps while dropping your children at school, or a weekly meeting you attend. Each and every time you see this person you have a opinion about them. Yet, you’ve had no communication or very little with this person. It doesn’t take conversation(s) to have an opinion of someone. Why, because we do have opinions of people we talk with all the time, those we have never met, and others that we see from afar. This comes even when you’re not talking to one another. That first contact takes about 60 sections or less to be formed. Funny though, because it happens each time and every time it’s a different reaction or thought based on a look, manner of dress and speaking voice. It is a slow acceptance of the person or a non-acceptance based on the external look of the person, as you have had no conversation with them.

We all do it to one another.

9118 015This language I call Silent Talk or Silent Language. Little children probably don’t deal with silent language as much as when they start getting into adolescence (my opinion). They take people and things at face value. They don’t have a preconceived notion about who they see or meet, nor the place they may be visiting. All they know is they hope to have fun. This is not complicated…is it? We, as adults make things much more complicated than it needs to be, and it begins often before we set our sights on a person, place or thing. Our opinions are already formed. It becomes complicated, simply because you have to undue your thinking as it is to see the bigger picture of the whole experience. It is what it is. Children do not try to make it more or less then what they see and/or hear. As they get older this is when the analyzing comes into play. They are wonderful and don’t judge one another (yet).

Silent Talk and Silent Language is the way people respond to one another. We make decisions of others based on what people own, they way they speak, their home and lifestyle and even the food they prefer and where they shop. Often times and most, it’s done without true and complete knowledge of who that person really is. And, even when we know that person, we pre-judge every time. It never stops.

HouseNow, as we speak about this Silent Language, we bring it to the homefront. When you meet someone for the first time it takes approximately 60 seconds to figure out who they are, where they live, do they own a house or rent an apartment, do they work, make a good salary, have children, a husband and if not married a boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. This is true. The mind just jumps into gear and takes off. This occurs when we do not get to talk to a person at length. We are often times surprised at the information received. Why? Because we  (think) we have figured out a lot about this person. Where they live, do they have a big or small house or apartment, their work situation, children, husband or wife. When you haven’t time to actually meet this person(s) you may quality or disqualify   before you qualify any of the information. This is what your head knowledge tells you is the story, and you’re sticking to it (funny) until they tell you different.


You may even decide to establish in your mind what they do for a living, how much money they make (by the way they dress), etc. This could be a big mistake because you may be way off base. Silent Talk or Silent Language doesn’t leave anyone out. It happens to all of us at various times. Sometimes people make these determinations on us and sometimes we do it to others. People don’t plan it, but it takes place each and every time. It is very important to me that I make people aware of what, I believe, is something we fail at terribly. We should define our own self and not be concerned If/when others try to identify or shape us in the way they wish to see us. Be who you are and know who you are.  First thing is to recognize and learn about ourselves rather then concentrating on others. We will not uncomplicate some of the things in our life and lifestyle until we focus on our personal self first. It is about how you like yourself, feel about yourself and forgive yourself for thinking that you should live up to others standards.

Often times, unless it’s just a quick blog, it takes me awhile to get deep into my subject. I love writing and being able to expand on my thoughts. I also love to work with people on helping them build their image where it becomes recognizable to them.

Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting Creativity What are your core values? Simply put, do you use them in your home and lifestyle, your day-day actions and communication with others?

Why have I decided to write this blog? Well, first off, this was difficult because core values are involved. What are core values? They are those values which you live by, believe in and expect others to abide by in your presence. They are the basis of who you are, what you believe, and how you apply your core beliefs. Everyone wants to grow and live as they can, and certain rules and laws allow for this,however, it doesn’t mean that it’s right (or wrong). What core values do you live by?



Accentuate Home Styling and ConsultingThink about this. Every single person is complicated to some degree, and even when you think you know them, you are learning new things about one another. It’s just the complex and complicated people we are and the way we were created. Care about your fellow person, man or woman, boy or girl. We all count and are important just by fact that we are here. We contribute as we should for everyone has something to contribute. Don’t waste your life by not seeking out what your gifts are to share with the world (if possible). You are important and have an image which will be judged by others unless you declare who you are first and let everyone know. Your home (place where you reside and pay rent or mortgage) is a part of you. It holds within its walls the declaration of you as a human being, who is smart and has been blessed with great gifts. You are important and so is your image, for it’s the Silent part of you. Unless you speak you leave the silent message in tact for what you want others to perceive about you. Don’t allow others to judge you or place you in a space you do not belong. Declare who you are and be proud. Don’t shape yourself to compete with anyone else. You are unique and your own person.

Our image is so important in many ways. Do not neglect yourself. RLA Image Resources is a part of Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. We will share this information in a fun way at businesses, colleges and small groups. Contact us and Thank you. Rita –








When you work or move to accomplish something that adds to your life/lifestyle, and it works favorably that is an Achievement.





“There are single thoughts that contain the essence of a whole volume, single sentences that have the beauties of a large work”. – Joseph Joubert


We achieve to the degree that we overcome the negative. Achievers are willing to pay the price of achievement. They sacrifice, struggle, work & perhaps alone, weary, and discouraged, and yet at each step overcome the negative.

Overcoming the negative is the price of achievement – the price of greatness.

No Pains, No Gains – proverb quoted by Samuel Smiles –

What does this mean to you? To me, this quote means that those things that I strive to do, to learn, and to build life on will cause me some pain at times. It isn’t going to always be an easy walk to achievement. You and I must learn that the road to Achievement is, at times. an uphill battle. I must remember to not throw in the towel and to look ahead to the Win. Rita A.


Your One & Only…First Impression..

Personal and Home Image exists…big time!. How many times do you get to make a first impression? Your thoughts and mine may differ on this topic, but I truly feel that you only get ONE Time. After that, it’s working to repair what you’ve suddenly discovered may not have been the best first impression you wanted to put forth. You cannot worry about what other’s are saying, but you have an obligation to put your best foot forward and receive the results you are looking for.

9118 015Being small means having to learn, grow and be dependent on others for guidance. Growing up is very challenging at times. Don’t you agree?

When you were small, you didn’t think a lot about the importance and necessity of how you would get through each day. You left that up to the ‘big people’. Let them worry and contemplate your day. Your obligation, for the most part,  was to play, learn to get along and work out differences with others (and sometimes yourself :)  Playing, eating and having fun was the main course of the day. If there were issues, you perhaps were shielded from that concern. If you did know, you were instructed not to worry about anything. Be a child, and do as children do. You weren’t to worry about ‘big people stuff’; that is if you were lucky.

There were children at school that I would see as a small child that I knew had ‘something wrong’ in their life. I didn’t know what it was, and as we played together it was all about the ‘game’ and how to win. Did your life center around what to play, who to play with and how long you were challenged to play any one thing too long. Even if you’re growing up years were different, I’m certain as a small child the experiences were similar. Children around the world seek the same things as they grow. The outcome may be different due to customs and laws, but children are children. They need lots of positive guidance and love to encourage them. DOES YOUR IMAGE MATTER?


Forget name imagesSo, we’ll graduate to another level, and that is a young lady or young man that has left the ‘little children’ stage in life to the very sophisticated person who has many ideas and challenges to take on. After all, you are almost an adult. This means you need to take on some responsibilities destined in your life. Of course, completing high school and college (in this day, they go hand-hand), is mandatory. Then, there are different issues as you come into your teens. What a confusing time, at best. Friends who were ‘friends yesterday’ seem not-so-friendly today. What happen? Who did what to who, and who said what to hurt some feelings? Wow, you’re finding yourself and your place in this world. How will you react to this change that is digging deep inside your private space, and that you are probably not liking very much.

Young adults (going into college) now, or soon are exploring parts of them that they see changing. Some are great, because it means you are a semi-grown person (according to the Law), and you get to do some things you couldn’t do as a adolescent or very young teenager. But wait, you have to be 21 to really be classified as an adult. The more grown up you  become, the more responsibilities that come with that growth and territory. DOES YOUR IMAGE MATTER?

Yes, yes. It mattered all the time, but now It Really Matters. Protect Your Image!


Clutter of the mindYou are responsible for the image you carry around with you. You’ve always had that image, but perhaps, never paid much attention to it. But now, you are forced to give it some recognition. After all, you can do as you like (within the law) and make your own decisions. However, what does your image say about that? Is it giving out messages you want given out, or is It providing a silent message you don’t notice or recognize….but, others do. In fact, they noticed it way before you are ever conscious about this silent language.

Has it done damage? Once you recognize this as an issue, then it become easier to fix and be ready for whatever comes out by others. Never get caught about what others are reading regarding your silent language. People make up stuff, but at least you are aware of the message you given out. Now if someone decides to say or react in a way that you knew wasn’t factual, because you checked out your whole body language before they did. You acted just as you wanted them to remember you. It’s you determination. You set your standards and the silent language you’ll speak behind your real voice. Your mouth speaks one thing, but your whole body attitude could be saying something opposite and very different.


HouseYour Home has it’s own story also, and people also form opinions about you by the silent message your home speaks. Much can be said about this, and it reflects back to you or whoever lives in the home. You know how you can see a house that may not look very nice on the outside, and without knowing, you’ve judged what it looks like inside and about the people who live there.

We all do this. It not being mean or anything, unless you purposely say something to the person residing there without knowing anything about them or their home. What is the definition of image? It is unspoken mannerism or habit…….

I provide seminars and speak to groups about home and personal image…the silent kind. If your business or small group are seeking someone to speak on this topic, please contact me. This is something I did several years ago and then got into interior decorating. I love to help people see something about their home or themselves that they didn’t know or realize. But, others do! The message jumps out immediately to someone visiting or meeting you for the first time.


I have provided seminars on Projecting a Positive Image to businesses and schools. It mattered a lot then and still matters, although things were a little more formal back then. There is less formality and more encouragement to be casual at this time. However,  image still holds a positive or negative result as being judged by others. During my time, people dressed up to go to work. I lived in New York at the time, rode the buses and trains where people were dressed up. You couldn’t leave for work and take that train ride to Manhattan without wearing heels, purse, makeup, and hair combed for the ladies. Men, wore their suits with starched shirts with handkerchief in the pocket to give the suit a purpose.  Yes, you probably are reading this and have reached Adulthood. You’re in …. you’ve made it! You are Now responsible for your whole life. Pay attention to the silent message You May Receive from time to time.

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Hold On To What You Got…It’s A Diamond!








Here is your diamond….in the rough! No one ever said it “Had” to fit around your finger. Find your style and colors, renew what you have. Just do it different.


Promise yourself that you will not decorate and do exactly the same thing that you’ve just removed. Think outside of your big box for some great, new ideas. Hold On To What You’ve Got until it’s exactly the right time to relinquish it in some other way. “Your home is your home until you decide to leave it.” You put all of yourself in it, and therefore, it holds a value that is equal to any great looking gem.


Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is encouraging you to think outside of that ‘comfortable’ box. It’s the box we all find ourselves living in a great deal of the time. YOU are the diamond in the rough. You have so much to offer the world. Keep your diamond shining and keep motivated to keep yourself at the top of change. The more you learn, the more you see things change outside of the box.


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How Edgy Are You In Your Personal Life?

Turquoise bluesSmall & stylish apartmentTurquoise RoomJust how edgy are you in your personal life? This question could probably speak House

about the many aspects in our life and style that make us who we are.

Love It! Colors…I cannot get enough, but within reason. I am edgy.

I love to try new looks for decorating.





I am the writer of this blog post. I am edgy and will add this to my home and lifestyle page. I hope you become inspired. COLORS……

I love colors so much. I cannot get enough of the use of them. Of course, I won’t overdue it in a room, but that may be something different for someone whose had a non-use of colors in their home space or style.  And, you know what, white makes all colors “pop, jump out, and make you smile” because it creates a great deference of its use inside of you; a happy feeling. The space looks fantastic with the blend of colors.

What is your favorite color(s)? As much as I am enthralled with color(s), I also like black/white together. We are all inspired by colors in the positive and/or negative. It may be that some people  like to wear colors inspired through clothing, pictures & paintings, color wheels, some by the way walls, furniture and floors are put together. What is your way to appreciate colors? How do colors make you feel? Happy, sad or indifferent?

Allow yourself to be inspired. Don’t be afraid. I’ve talked with people who say they are scared of the use of color. In many cases they cannot foresee the use of the color(s) in their minds-eye. Don’t be afraid. Think of all the things that you were a little unsure of and now you can do it without a blink of an eye. Colors can be changed if you don’t like them (maybe, not the same day), but just the fact it can be changed. I would sample any color you’re not sure of before you paint an entire space. If it’s a wall, just place a sizeable paint brush swooch on the wall and live with it for a week or so. See it in all types of light; could be sunlight, cloudiness, nighttime and artificial lighting. Test it in the room where you intend to paint. Pick a small, unnoticed area on the wall, or on the furniture you’re painting, etc. You know what I’ve always done? I have always painted a swooch on the wall that will give me a good contrast. A little tiny splash will not do much to tell you how the paint color(s) will work. You’re going to paint anyway, so do the sampling so you can make a good decision.

All I will say is….HAPPY PAINTING!





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My life altering moments happen many times as I move along the road of life. It happens daily through prayer ,  conversations with others, reading books, papers and/or magazines; It happens, and there is nothing I can do to change it. Nor, do I want to change it.  It is based on the interactions I have every moment of every day. It’s God-driven (my opinion), and I’m happy about it. I leave it up to HIM, fore he knows the plans of my life. So, that being said, I ask you to take your journey into some of your life-altering moments. Think about those moments, times and experiences that changed you and shaped you into the person you are. The one thing I know is we can never lie to ourselves about who we are. Your brain demands you recall (even when you try to forget).

This is an early morning blog, and I woke up thinking about life-altering moments, and it’s not a surprise. God seems to do that to me a lot.  I had to write and it’s another part of who I am. None of us are one dimensional. We have so many great things about ourselves to share and help other people to grow. This is supposed to be how the world works, as I know and read about it (my opinion). Writing, I have always loved, but not as much as I do now.

 I love when the mind takes us to safe places of thoughts that make us realize we are more of a person than we even believe. We are blessed beyond measure and often times miss the mark or that moment just passes by like the wind. You feel it; cannot catch it or stop it in its path. Life is just like that, isn’t it? How many times have you had a thought to do or say something and poof, it’s gone. Whatever takes it place can become your life-altering moment. Did you realize that? Every moment is important in your life. Every experience, positive or negative is important in your life. Don’t miss out on your poof-moments.

This is what writers do.  They think and think, and even when the thinking is turned off for a relaxing time, the mind is still working. Thoughts and pictures of things are always there. It’s a wonderful way to create and seeing ideas formulate as the task begins. This is exactly what happens when I am decorating a space. I see it before I do it. So, the ideas are formulated, and I take it from there. I write a lot (notes to remember stuff, ideas and life).  Life and lifestyle is what I write about,  and decorating is life as you live within it surroundings. All of us have opinions about most everything. These thoughts can be monumental for us or can stifle us. Writing things down about who you are helps you to take full notice of the gifts and challenges that God has set upon you. We grow and grow as long as we live. We never stop growing in learning about how we can make a difference in this world. We all can, you know. attitude changes everythingThis is exactly why we are here. What is your gift? Find out and use it. Every living person in this world has a gift of some sort. Seek it out. You have an obligation to share it with others. As a decorator, I helped people see beyond a chair in this corner, or a wall painted white or a particular color, or wood floor vs a rug. As a writer, I hope to awaken your imagination to something that you are excited about. People often times base their life and lifestyle on someone else’s. There used to be a television program called….This Is Your Life…., and the host would surprise someone with people they hadn’t connected with in a very long time. It was always happiness that ensued. This is what your life can and should be. We all face things that make us happy and/or sad. It’s a fact of life. Humans are just like that. It’s a gift, because we can see how far we have come from some of our experiences which happened yesterday or 30 or 40 years ago. This is life altering, when you can move onward; it doesn’t mean to forget, but it means to not get bogged down with those things you cannot control. The truth be told, that is EVERYTHING IN LIFE.

We, the people do not control ANYTHING at all. We do not breathe on our own. It’s life being given to us every single day, and not through a mortal person. Some people, sad but true have a machine that keeps their lungs moving. But still, that’s a gift that someone invented that machine for this very purpose. This is all Godly moments that I refer to in this blog. And, because the words have come so easily and the time of awakening was just right, I had to write it NOW.

Here’s a life altering change for some who are saying aloud or thinking….”I have no life altering moments. Nothing in my past or my future (that I can see) would Remake Kitchen Chairsindicate that”.  Well, I am here to say and reassure you that you have had one today as you read this blog. You will think about who you are, what God has given you (didn’t He wake you up this morning)? That alone is the big. There are other gifts you have for now. Today, you may be the best at a particular thing, but tomorrow it could change. Someone else would possibly take up that mantle. Well, I know I have a keen eye for color and quite daring when it comes to making changes in the home. I love the adventure of trying a new idea (could be placement of furniture, color on a wall, flooring, etc.). I want something different, not the same look I have grown out of.  Thus, I decided to make a change to the chairs in my home(see attached picture). Everything in your life/style can be changed to represent your attitude of who you are, what you like and how you relate to the change. This happens through all phases of life, except with my family. I love them forever, never get tired of them, and pray to have them in my life for a long time to come.

As the time comes, I will continue Life Altering Journey – Part 2. I hope you enjoy this read and have some aha moments of personal discovery. Please feel free to communicate with me. I would really like to know what you learned from this post. Send to: